“If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; and they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear.” Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (KJB)
Let me assure you that I will not be advocating for the stoning of a rebellious, disobedient, disrespectful child – boy or girl. Something must be done in the families of today, and for some reason many young parents have gotten the mistaken notion that “I need to be my child’s friend, not a parent”. Believe me your child needs you to discipline them. They need you to be the parent.
It was a very bad mistake when we turned the raising of our children over to our government. I am in no way advocating for beating, or mistreating children. We need to love them, cherish them, and give them direction.
If you will notice in the above Bible verses this law is dealing with a child who is rebellious and the parents have been unable to deal with them, so they take this child to the elders of the people, and the sentence is stoning. Let me add here, that there is no record in Scripture – that I can recall – of any parents bringing a child before said council and the child being stoned.
The reason why, I believe, is because of this law. The people respected it, and dealt with their children accordingly. If parents refuse to train their children according to righteous living, God, and His word there will be problems. However if you do nothing to direct them, and discipline them they could end up on Death row.
Parents; stop being your child’s friend and parent them. If you are a good parent to them while they are growing up in your home they will be your friend later.
When you put your faith in the Lord Jesus Christ; the One who died for all our sins, was buried, and rose again; then you will have the faith to get into God’s manual for raising children. It is the Bible.